[Rawbob]

Before I respond, i'll wait to see her responses to WISEMAN's post!

However, i will echo his stressing the importance of seeing a counselor. You've heard the old saying, Doctors make the worse patients...well....trying to "fix" your marriage without professional guidance usually dosn't work, because your feelings are clouded by your own needs, perceptions and bais!

If you're both really serious, get a 3rd party professional involved. It's not a guarantee that the marriage will be fixed, but it will help get the whole issue in perspective!