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Quote[/b] (Hello @ May 07 2003,14:45)]agreed wiseman, but the very act of talking to parents endagers a teens sex life. . . if parents understood that their teens are gonna get up to stuff, and presented oppurtunities for it, then this would be a much better, much safer way of things working.
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Interesting counterpoints Hello. We sometimes forget that Parents HAVE been in your shoes and DO know that you're gonna get up to stuff. We simply want to make sure that you make an informed decision. The question is not "Am I mature enough to have sex." The question is "Am I mature enough to know when I should have sex and am I mature enought to handle the responsibilities and potential consequences that come with the act?"
Now I've not had to have this conversation yet, and no doubt that many parents don't relish that first conversation. But I think the most difficult task, for the parent, is explaining what sex is and how everything works. The most difficult part for the teen, is continuing to listen when the conversation turns to protection, stds and pregnancy.
Here's part of a post from lilone back in September. I think it really hits the nail on the head. I would only modify her last sentence to read "Parents AND THEIR CHILDREN need to learn that education is a form of protection, not permission."
My H is not at all thrilled about me talking to the kids so openly about sex, but i hope they both know that i will answer any question they have, and that they will not be afraid to ask. i have even told the 12yo during one of our conversations about sex and relationships to please wait till he is older, but no matter how old he is, please ask me if he needs someone to buy condoms for him. i don't know if he will, but he at least knows he can.
Parents need to learn that education is a form of protection, not permission.