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First of all you have to start by talking. Most of us are taught that you just don't talk about sex, so this is one of the toughest things for some couples to overcome. I started by saying that I know this is really embarrasing and uncomfortable but I love you and I want every touch, kiss, carress, and movement to be the most wonderful thing we can experience together. It took patience and many smiles and eye gazes and kisses, but slowly we started to open up. I started by having her just take my hands, fingers, and lips and guide them to the right places. Eventually, I asked her to show me how she touched herself. Again this took patience and an understanding that she was taught that touching herself was wrong, and therefore should not be admitted to. After we both admitted to masterbating she slowly started to show me. Having enough trust in a person to allow them to watch you give yourself an orgasm is the most wonderful and sexually exiting thing we have ever done together. After many years now we still masterbate during sex and it has become one of the biggest turn ons of our sex together. The key is lots and lots of patient honest conversation, and a willingness to wait for your partener to be at ease with you.
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