So, I stayed over with my girlfriend last night, and we tried having sex again. The first time wasn't so great, and though this last time was better, it still wasn't what I'm thinking of.
So, my gf really wanted to do the whole strapon thing, but when I penetrated her with it, she told me I wasn't doing it hard enough. Then she wanted to do it to me, and I let her just because I was curious. It was okay, but not great. I think she went too hard and fast with it because I hurt quite a bit today. When she does oral on me it feels pretty good and I get the orgasm I need, but that's it.
I know sex is supposed to get better and easier, but I'm still a bit disillusioned. Is it odd that I would just rather lie in bed withi her and kiss her than actually have sex? Or will time fix everything?
You are looking for the emotional part and find satisfaction in it, talk to her about this. As far as sex, with each and every new partner it takes time to find your preference as to how you like it and what you like. She may be trying to show you different things in an attempt to make you feel good. Remember you were just a virgin, you do not get immediately bestowed with techniques, it takes time to learn. Even those who are straight, being with some men will walk sore and bow-legged in the am! Use lots of lube too!
I kind of figured that it was because I'm new to it. I want to talk to my gf about my emotional requirements, but I haven't yet because I don't want to seem clingy, and there have been enough clingy wife/girlfriend threads lately..... I don't need to be another clingy girl.
As for my own sexual satisfaction, I'm not really sure what will flip my switch because I haven't felt it yet.
[quote=CrazyJenny;190013]I kind of figured that it was because I'm new to it. I want to talk to my gf about my emotional requirements, but I haven't yet because I don't want to seem clingy, and there have been enough clingy wife/girlfriend threads lately..... I don't need to be another clingy girl.
As for my own sexual satisfaction, I'm not really sure what will flip my switch because I haven't felt it yet.[/quote]
You will find the right switch! And you are not being clingy! It's a normal display of affection...we like to snuggle and kiss.
My parents never really were affectionate with me, and now that I have a gf I almost worry that I'm smothering her with affection..... :eek: Sort of making up for what I didn't have, I guess.
[quote=CrazyJenny;190017]My parents never really were affectionate with me, and now that I have a gf I almost worry that I'm smothering her with affection..... :eek: Sort of making up for what I didn't have, I guess.[/quote]
No it's coming into your own sense of comfort and emotional requirements! It's finding out who you are and what you need. I need a lot of touching, hugs and handholding, without it I feel dead. When I accidentally do it to others it makes them uncomfortable at times...
I don't think that any place feels quite as good as lying in bed with my gf. And it can even be with all our clothes on, and the effect is still the same!:)