And in addition, and because we do not know how old you are, and what your moral, social, ethical, and religious values are, keep foremost in your mind that going to bed with someone on the first date involves risks.
When two people engage in sex, we accept that not only are we having sex with this particular individual, we are also having sex with every other person s/he has ever been with--
AND every person all of these people have been with, ad infinitum!
Always look out for and protect #1--
YOU. Moreover, it is a good idea to look out for her as well by insisting that your partner is using a highly reliable form of contraception. At no other time than during the teen years and early twenties is a woman more apt to become pregnant. So, in addition to protecting each of you, you should also insist on backup. Use a third line of protection in the form of a spermicide. Personally, I wouldn't go all the way with someone I just met and certainly not until I had some sort of history on her, and not until I had time to acquire some trust and believability in what she has told me. Ya just can't be too careful nowadays. This is a small price to pay and a small inconvenience to endure in order to minimize any chances of picking up some cooties that you either cannot cure or will cost much to do so. There is fault with the logic that either party uses to convince themselves that only one birth control method is sufficient, be it hers or yours; a lot of unwanted pregnancies and births have resulted from following this notion. Pulling out or withdrawal? Forget that. This is simply a version of Russian Roulette! Anytime you point an uncovered penis toward the general area of a woman's vulva, it is not unlike pointing a fully loaded cannon in which you run the good chance of having it fire off accidentally. The "ammo" will often find its way to the "target": her vagina, cervix, and beyond.
As great as intercourse is, a good combination of oral and hand stimulation produce much more intense orgasms. Intercourse has more to do with emotional expression and commitment. For more on the subject, please refer to
the Index.