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I'm not sure who owns the fault, yet tend to believe that she owns part as do you. If she really wanted to hear from you (or family or friends or whomever) she cannot realistically expect a business person or certain others to text her. I don't text and do not plan to--ever. If not by telephone, E-mail is as good as it gets. That said, she should have provided a way to contact her directly by land line or cell. If you have her address or know where to find her on campus, then you should have tried to meet up with her in person by showing some initiative. (Remember this for the future.)

Please read the articles listed in the Index concerning dating. I agree with the post, above. Unless and until a couple become exclusive having made that agreement only after finding Mr. and Ms. Right, and after deciding to settle down, all dating is open ended. I wrote a lengthy reply yesterday to another poster. Please go back thru my replies and read the two-part response, in addition.

Her reaction to you have sex with someone else was a complete over reaction. Perhaps she should also read the articles listed in the Index for more information on this and other matters of the heart.

> What do you think I should do, in regards to this and how to avoid this kind of dilemma in the future.

First things first: if you want to try one last time to come to terms with this girl, seek her out, go to her, set up a time to talk and then "communicate" all this to her. Relationships are cooperative partnerships. If she thinks there is something to be had for her in dating you, she will let you talk to her; if not, then thank her for the one enjoyable evening and move on to the next person in line and put your additional information to use.

Last things last: I think this has been answered, above. With each new date, ask for contact information as well as what time of day/evening is a good time to call--then verify the number and other information.

Take more initiative, although, I rather doubt you will find many people who only want to be contacted by text message. That is just--well, idiotic and juvenile.

Please feel free to ask additional questions should you have any after you do your reading assignment.

-doc