I have a problem,
one of my best freinds lost her husban a couple of years ago, and I, unlike many mutual freinds and family didn't bail on her or tried to grift out some inheritance .
Infact, I went through similar years ago after a bad auto wreck (me vs a DUI, I lost) and all my freinds did the same to me, so I hated to see her hurt in this way on top of everything else, so I took the role as shoulder to cry on and a boot to the butt to keep her moving when needed...
but now, she put the move on me
I don't want to take advantage of a
greif rebound, but at the same time I haven't been with anyone since my own tragedy (I had convinced myself that a scarred, slightly gimpy, cynical loner like me could never have anyone show that kind of interest in me) .
I feel guilty for thinking about sex with her, worried how things would change if I did (or if I even could), flattered, and honestly, bit scared too about the whole situation because things like this NEVER happen to me, I'm always the 'buddy' never the 'boyfreind', women I'm freinds with just never think of me as anythng more <period>....
to show you how comfortable our freindship is, we'd can talk as she dresses and I'm standing in the doorway of her bedroom and never had that awkward tension, we'd have flirty banter with out embarrassment, hell, we can argue politics and not get mad or emotional...
so, wise gurus...
what words of wisdom can you offer?