[dancingdoc2]

> I really don't care about the emotional stuff. She doesn't either. We both just want to have sex. I am asking for advice where to have sex. Not how or when I'm ready.

Have you asked your girlfriend why she wants to have sex? We know why you do. Apart from curiosity, most likely it is simply to get your rocks off regardless of what you tell her.

Are you certain she does not care for the emotional stuff? For women, sex is tied more to the psyche than it is for men, so my guess is once her curiosity has been satisfied, she will discover this fact and be more particular when and with whom and under what circumstances she has sex. At some point you must come to understand that women have a different criteria for having sex than do guys. Because of this, you must consider the emotional component of this in the future. This is partly why I suggested waiting for a few years.

That said, and falling upon deaf ears, have a look around your neighborhood and town/city. Regardless of where you opt to lose your virginity, play it safe with regard to using a condom, plus her choice of contraception, plus, a third backup method--a spermicide. At your age, all three are necessary.

> She's blown 4 guys already, and been raped. But I actually kinda like her still....

You make this sound like what she has done or has had done to her has somehow tainted her. While you have yet to acquire a "history", ya just gotta know that (most) all the people you date in the future will have, as will you someday. What is important is establishing a "history" with the the current person. There is an article listed in the Index that you should read about one person having more experience than the other.

> I really just want to have sex right now. But my parents would flip if they found out.

Have you asked yourself why we have the same opinion as your folks?

> I can't really do it in my house. The big problem is if my sister or parents come home while were having sex.

Why not? Your bedroom is a quite pleasant environment (if your room is squared away). My guess is that this experience won't require much time since you two are not interested in the "emotional stuff". Have you ever heard the old expression: "wham, bam, thank you, ma'am"? My guess is you can have this over and done with inside of fifteen minutes. Surely you know when to expect your parents and/or sister back home.......... If not, ask.

> So is there a good place to have sex? ... My backyard is kind of big, but where I am thinking about doing it is kind of close to the driveway.

How secluded is this area? Can neighbors and passersby catch a glimpse? (Don't ya just hate back yards without fences, neighbors in back with two story houses, apartment houses?)

> Can you please help me think of a good place to do it? All I can think of is backyard or the school bathrooms. Maybe the forest.

Well, forget the bathrooms. If you are worried about being discovered by family, what about people needing to use a public restroom. Even if all you're interested in is getting your rocks off, a (dirty?) stall is not a suitable place.

Forest? Now this is a good idea. Plan on taking a picnic lunch, blanket, and a couple of pillows along. Plan a day or two ahead and go find a suitable place off the trail under a tree. The same goes for a city park, possibly. (Of course, if you are still not interested in getting your emotions involved, do not include the picnic lunch.)