[Brandye]

Look for stickies on female sexual response or satisfaction. The reality is that one-quarter of all women never, or rarely experience orgasm; on-quarter commonly reach orgasm through penetration and thrusting. That means that about half of us usually require some sdded stimulation to reach orgasm. I am in this group as you have been. You can get there but with a little extra effort. This can also vary by partner. The various angles and movements are more critical for women than for men. With the penis contained within the vagina, the man is getting needed stimulation. That is not necessarily so for us.

Recognizing that the so-called ideal of simultaneous orgasm is rare - extremely rare - one of you will come first. There is an entire movement called "ladies first" that calls for the man helping the woman reach climax and then move on to the male partner.

My favorite sex book is The Joy of Sex. It has many good ideas for eaach helping the other and is fun to read together. So, perhaps adjust your expectations beng relieved that you are in the orgasmic group and then practice with some goal not necessarily being your currently held ideal.