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Originally Posted by arutha
Ahh good idea. Maybe I should electrocute her.
Been a while since I was here, but I guess time for a small update. I don't think shes putting much effort in, or any at all really. It probably won't last too much longer. She keeps telling me she loves me and wants to be with me, but her actions say otherwise.
A couple of weeks ago she REALLY p!ssed me off. It was my birthday, and she was over the previous night anyway, when I woke up she wasn't in bed. She pretty much spent the entire day outside messing around on her laptop not spending any time with me, didn't buy me anything, didn't even wish me happy birthday. God I wouldn't even do that to someone I hated. I know its generalising, but I'm really losing any respect I had for women lately.
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arutha, I'v been married 13 years and am perfectly happy. Don't mistake that as my marriage has been perfect. It hasn't. Its had many ups and downs.
First and for most: figure out if you really want this marriage? Is the person you married the one you want to grow old and grey with? Has the person you married and the one living in your house changed so much so you cant stand it deep inside you?
In most marriages the person you marry isn't the person you though they where when you got married or you already know about there flaws and accepted them anyway, if that's the case quit whining.
If you want to keep your marriage listen up. Communication, Communication, Communication! If you cant communicate with each other your never going to know what pisses you off and makes you happy. Talk, write letters, text, IM do what ever it takes to share info and be comfortable. My wife is a note writer. I like to talk. We have recently discovered the power of IMing each other. I know it sounds wired, in the same house 1 room apart chating but it works. Hell, Iv had to travel away from home a couple of times for legal stuff and we've even had chat sex. It was awesome.
Tell her you love her. Tell her she looks nice. Tell her she has nice perfume. If you don't like her perfume tell her what about it you don't like and what perfume you do like. Maybe she would like it too and switch. YES BE MUSHY! Its very reassuring to know that your with someone that accepts you for who you are in your home.
By her flowers. They don't have to be roses. My wife like roses but because of one of our experiences when we started dating she actually likes Daisy's better. By her a gift that's for her. Not just some candy and a flower. My wife likes Ferrero Rocher. It has to be something for her. Just because YOU bought it with the intentions of giving it to her doesn't mean its FOR her. YES BE MUSHY!
Why do this? Because after you reach a level of comfort with each other then your sex life can really open up. With the exception that we cant just do it any where in the house because of the kids we actually have a more fulfilling sex life now than when we got married.
Alot of woman like candles and bath stuff. Buy her something SHE likes and you cant go wrong.
One time, my wife was working 2nd shift, I placed candles starting by the back door and ever couple of feet thru the living room and up the steps to the bed room. Had a bunch of candles in there and flower pedals. Really really MUSHY stuff. Had some of the best sex we had in a wile.
Marriage doesn't have an autopilot so it WILL take some work. You WILL fight with your souse. You WILL say sh*t to each other you WILL regret. But you WILL always be able to say sorry, give her a hug tell her how much she means to you.
Hope this helps/give you some ides.
ClosetFreak~