[EvilEvilKitten]

There are a few other items to address: You're in your 30's, I will presume your wife is younger since that seems to be the way of things. If you two are going to have a family - kids, dogs, white picket fence - do it now rather than later.

Why?

Simple biology. Women hit their breeding prime in their 20's and don't leave it until their 40's. This is when most women badger their husbands on the child issue. Men do not get 'baby fever' until they're in their 50's. Now think about this - if he's 50 that makes her what 40 to 50 usually, right? When it is NOT a good idea for her to have kids due to lower quality of her eggs and his sperm. Can you say birth defects, miscarriages, infertility, menopause, andropause? Sure you can. In addition: there is having the psychological flexibility and the emotional stamina required when dealing with kids to consider. Younger adults simply handle it better.

Seriously, reconsider your "no kids yet" position because there really isn't any better time to have them.

Assuming your marriage is stable. If it isn't, that's another kettle of fish.

The second item is the effect of your 'withholding' on your wife. Some women feel that sex is not just for fun but has a more serious purpose. You can jazz up your sex life all you want but if she feels that a significant part of her life is being ignored, she may begin feeling something other than eagerness when it comes to sex.

You two have got to discuss these things when NOT in the bedroom.