[Brandye]

The male sexual capacity peaks at about 18 and goes downhill from there. That is one immutable factor of aging. A second is that ten years in, most marriages have hit a stale plateau in the sex department. Your use of stamina is not completely understood. If you mean how long you last, that is one thing; recovery time and repeat performance is quite another. Simply having sex so infrequently will shorten the time you last in her.

Very few women in stable, monogamous relationships use anything in addition to the pill. Of 100 women having sex regularly whilst on the pill, properly taken, three will become pregnant. A little extra care on time the pill is taken and watching for interactions with drugs (especially anti-biotics) and dietary supplements will improve this to about 1 in 100. Most women are comfortable with those odds. Withdrawal is not making much difference in the odds of pregnancy.

There is a psychological effect some women report that we are being short-changed when we do not get all that is coming to us (pun intended). In other words, your wife may simply want your semen inside her as a symbolic issue. Receiving that spoonful is part of the evolutionary design of the female body and many of us enjoy fulfilling that biological imperative to get it. I, personally, do not like the following dripping but feel greatly satisfied and at peace when I know I have just got sperm swimming inside me. That is a major factor in my remaining bi- rather than being completely lesbian.

The typical time reported by women for how long their last sex lasted was between three and thirteen minutes. You are right in there. If your wife is brought off first, your time in her really does not matter.

I suggest you look at some of EvilKitten's stickies on the program, learn really good cunnilingus and let it fly inside her. I also suggest a good long talk when sex is not in the air. Whilst sex may seem the problem, it is more often a symptom of other issues in the relationship.