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Slight Update. It's completely dried out sexually and she's been distancing herself from me. I've been talking to her about it and confronted her outright today... asked her if she wanted out. The basic result of the conversation was
1) She wants to have sex but she just doesn't desire it. She doesn't like making out with me because she doesn't like teasing me. Where it used to be that she wasn't comfortable with me yet, she now says she's comfortable and wants to, but it's now a matter of no interest or desire to have sex. She says she's very attracted to me.
2) I told her that it doesn't feel normal that she has no sexual desire whatsoever and told her she should talk to her doctor and counsellor about it. She's assumed that it's normal. I understand that some people (especially women) just desire sex less than others, but I wanted to see if we can help her low (or non existent) sex drive. I told her she can face this problem with me to help, or lose me and ignore it until it will eventually become an issue with the next guy down the line. I asked her if she's talked about it with anyone but she said she's too embarassed.
3) I told her that from now on we'd try something different when we're fooling around. Basically, she'll initiate the advances/progression from now on and I'll go with whatever she's feeling. My hope there is that we'll actually start doing these things again and that maybe she can breakthrough whatever is in the way if she doesn't feel as pressured. Though I'm worried that it's just going to equate to her never initiating in the first place.
That's where it is. I appreciate everyone's opinions. Even if you're just calling me a self serving horndog. I take an active interest in what I want, and I accept the judgement that might come along with it.
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