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Originally Posted by pai
Small update.... we got together last night, no sex yet, just a lot of fun and fooling around. I'm kind of thinking he lied about his experience, but never having been with a virgin, what would I know? Hes very very good in the bedroom, a great kisser, seems to know exactly what to do without any help from me. Is this level of confidence and skill possible in someone who has merely read up on the subject?
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I also don't think he has lied about it - it seems unlikely, since that is something most men would be reluctant to admit rather than brag about. Unless, of course, you indicated that you would prefer a virgin so he lied to "get to you", but from what you are writing that too seems unlikely.
Besides, he might be a virgin in the sense of not ever having sex, but that doesn't mean he hasn't kissed before and fooled around. He might have extensive experience in that, yet be a virgin in the strict sense of not having had vaginal intercourse.
As to your question if such confidence and skill is possible in somebody who has not had any experience (but as I pointed out your boyfriend has likely had experience, just not going all the way...), I suppose anything is possible, even if it is very unlikely. That said, Wrave has a point about the internet vastly increasing accessibility to information. I too am a virgin and although I haven't driven any girl 'wild' like he has, I would nonetheless like to think that I have a fairly decent amount of theoretical knowledge by now (at least as far as virgins go).
Of course, the internet and other information sources only provide the theory, whereas practice is a different matter, but the information still gives the potential for even somebody with zero experience to be at least theoretically much more knowledgeable than it would have been possible without access to such information. It seems highly unlikely that this would translate into practice without a great deal of initial fumbling, but it is difficult for me to say for certain on account of also being a virgin. Still I would imagine, it would be difficult at first despite knowing the theory - after all, even you know a lot about tennis and have studied tennis extensively, if you have never played it, you will be terrible at first, regardles of whether you know the theory or not. Again, this leads me to believe that your boyfriend is a virgin in the sense of not having had actual sex, but has had sexual experience, such as kissing and fooling around, so if you think that no longer makes him a virgin (I suppose the definitions vary) than he most likely isn't one.