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> he kinda thought i was basically tell him to start of sex all the time, when i was basically saying if HE wants sex, maybe he shouldn't always ask.
I recommend that the two of you read these two articles, first:
Chapter Three:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST
This chapter has a section on "Implied Consent" and "boundaries" regarding making out and how far to go.
NOTE: Frequently, and depending upon the nature of a poster's question, Doc recommends the person read Chapter Three, first, and Chapter One, second--then the others in turn.
The information on Implied Consent" will confirm what you told him, and, give him permission to begin making out with you without having to ask. If there is ever a time you do not want to or cannot, or would like to--later, it is your responsibility to inform him and clearly, particularly if it is the latter, in which case give him a time and/or place. Never say "NO", unless you absolutely do not want to make out with the guy, otherwise, say not now but "when". Why? Because if you say "no", the male of the species takes this as an absolute and to mean never.
The second article the two of you should read is:
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:
Follow these by reading all the other articles on making out under this heading:
A COUPLES GUIDE TO MAKING OUT
The Beginning-
Beyond Beginning-
I hope this is of help. Got questions?