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1. Stop all contact, including facebook and msn etc. You need to separate yourself from her. It's not necessarily that she's bad or anything, but just that you are too emotional to deal with being around her and getting over her at the same time. Stay out of contact for as long as it takes for you to be clear headed and over her.

2. She does NOT still love you. Hugs and kisses to girls can be a way of keeping someone on the backburner, and she is NOT helping you by continuing these things. If she loved you, she would let you recover without her making it harder for you.

3. Re-invent yourself after you've cut her out of your life. Take your time to cry and be depressed, then start to do new things and define yourself as a person separate from anyone else. Find out likes and dislikes and realize that it's about you. don't do it for her. It's over, don't hope for a chance that it isn't.

4. Let go. If it's really meant to be, it will happen come hell, high water, or a massive plague that kills 99% of the world. If it's not meant to be, dragging it out will make you more miserable and prolong your recovery. If it does end up happening, the changes you've made in yourself can only benefit. If it's not meant to happen, the changes you've made will help you to find the right person.

5. let me emphasize BREAK OFF ALL CONTACT. Tell her why you are doing this, and ask her to help you by agreeing to leave you alone. If she cares, she'll go along with it. If she doesn't genuinely care about your needs, she'll disregard you completely (which is a sign that she doesn't respect you). I don't care what comes out of her mouth, you're doing this for YOU and NOT for her. I have been through this process (I stayed single for a year, and only after two years made contact again when I was ready), and it's hard as hell, but it's worth every second that I spent hurting (6 months, to be exact), as I'm now with whom I was supposed to be with, in the most amazing relationship on earth.

6. DO NOT go right into someone else's arms. Stay single for at least a handful of months, as you need to define yourself apart from ANY OTHER person, not only her. Jumping into another relationship without this step will be unfair to your new partner.