[Brandye]

OK, you have never had an orgasm. Neither have one-quarter of the women you see walking around. Emotional, physical, whatever. Most of us learn to reach orgasm through masturbation. That is mostly physical but a good fantasy or imagination helps. Then with a partner, how expert of clumsy he may be takes a backseat to how you feel about what is going on. For the male, reponse is more physiological but for us, response is more emotional.

Check out the stuff on female masturbation here; check clitical.com; get a copy of Our Bodies Our Selves and figure out how your body works. Forget the G-Spot and the fancy stuff; go to work on what feels good and add a vibrator if you wish. Lying in the tub or in bed before sleep are great times to simply explore what feels right.

Unless you are seeing a doctor for sexual dysfunction, you will get little input there. What you bring up with your doctor is none of your b/f's business. He seems to be telling you to get fixed when there is nothing wrong with you.