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Originally Posted by Shnitzel
I have posted before on how I have never had an orgasm. When I went to planned parent hood to get a check up my boyfriend wanted me to bring up to the doctor that I have never had an O.
Asking your doctor is fine; however, if you had read thru the Index you would have found several informative articles that discuss the female "O". Please begin there. Armed with the information contained in these articles, you will be able to work on having orgasms.
Each person is responsible for his/her own orgasms. We do not give them away. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them. Boys learn about masturbation and orgasms right out of puberty. Girls--not so much. Girls often learn about masturbation much later if at all. That said, it is important to understand that Mother Nature gives us the pleasure center in the brain, lots of sensitive nerve endings all over our skin, an autonomic nervious system to carry signals back and forth, yet never connects everything together. To do so requires some practice before we can climax.
This kinda pissed me off...bc its an emotional thing not physically right?
Physiological.
Either way is he right?
He is not incorrect, perhaps premature.
should I tell the doctor about my lack of O's maybe she can even find my gspot? Or am I right its more of a me thing?
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As noted, it is not necessary to ask your doctor at this time. First, learn how to masturbate and to connect the "dots". After doing this and making the transistion into an orgasmic person, you should be fine.
Your G-spot can be found very easily. All you need is some "book learnin'". It is about the size of a quarter, somewhat ripply in texture, and, located about 2" along the inside wall of the vagina. (My Dr. fee for this is $50.
) Please do not be concerned about the G-spot. What is important is to learn how to have climaxes and orgasms. For this to happen, you need to learn how to involve all of your skin (it is the largest sex organ you have), not just the tip of the clitoris, the shaft, Labia Major and Labia Minora, etc. For this to happen you need to set aside some time each day for some self pleasuring. Once you can masturbate and climax regularly and consistently, then you can show your boyfriend how to help you by guiding his fingers with yours--and giving him feedback. All this is covered among the several articles dealing with the female orgasm. Go to the Index, now.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?