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My boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex lately. But here's the problem.
I'm more experienced than he is and really want to...but he is kind of insecure in his sexual ability. He's only had sex a few times, and not for about a year. Furthermore, every time he tried with his ex he lost his erection once he was inside her. I know he loved her and really trusted her, but I guess part of what I'm wondering is can that kind of erectile problem vary from girl to girl? What I mean by that is, could it have been a problem with her and not with me, for reasons of sexual attraction (because I know love doesn't necessarily equal chemistry)? Or if he has a problem with that is it more likely that it's always going to happen?
He never loses it in anything else we do, albeit sometimes ejaculating a bit prematurely--and whenever this happens I never get upset or laugh or anything, I always tell him it doesn't matter (which it doesn't) and try to make him feel comfortable. I want him to be comfortable enough with me to want to try it out, because the only thing stopping him right now is that he's self-conscious. And I'm more than happy to work through it with him.
Sorry that explanation was so long. Can you speak to this situation at all?
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