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> Brandye: About ten percent of women sometimes squirt.

Remember: 10% and "sometimes".

> Katoba: My GF's a virgin and I've never satisfied a girl by fingering and licking (I'm actually a virgin too).

Please read the articles in the index on making out and oral stimulation for help.

> I'm planning to go soft on her as I don't wish to damage her hymen, simply want to stroke her gently and make her achieve orgasm.

This is a good approach; however, you cannot "make her achieve orgasm". Each person is responsible for his/her own orgasms, we do not give them away. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them.

Secondly, has she learned to masturbate and have orgasms regularly and consistently on her own? If not, she has to do this first. This is explained in detail in those articles that discuss the female "O".

> I don't need advices on what she can do, as I want to dedicate my whole time pleasing her for the first time.

This is mighty magnanomous of you, yet entirely too selfish. Making love is not what we do to each other, it is what we do with and for each other in partnership. Explore and learn together. While you are reading thru the information provided here, please understand that while you may not think you need information on how to go about pleasing you, the more information you have on this and in general, the better your love life and the better your sex life will be. Maybe she needs the information, or for you to help her help you. Do not think for one minute that she is going to lie there and not want to reciprocate in some way. It is certainly OK if she does; however, do not require this of her.

You should know and understand that orgasms while in the company of a partner are generally vastly more instense than what we can achieve from masturbating. This is because of the pheromones and "sparks" flying between you. Not having an orgasm by whosever hand is to forego one of life's major pleasures! Don't knock it 'til you've tried it.

> Please explain what the consequences of her orgasm may be - squirt or not and so on...

Finally, on the subject of orgasms, you should know that they are not the biological imperative for women that they are for men. In other words, you can do much to please and pleasure her without her ever having an orgasm. This said, learn and perfect how you make love to a woman both psychologically as well as physically--as in how to have great makeout sessions! Understand that for guys at this stage making love has generally more to with with our orgasms; women on the other hand, wish to be appreciated, loved, validated, first and foremost. So, do not get all hung up on orgasms. Get concerned with how to make love. The importance of this is shown by the quantity of articles in the Index devoted to this important yet often minimized part of arousing a person.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?