[ten years gone]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

What she's doing is TESTING you to find out the answer to one question: do you want her all of her or do you just want sex?

The test is necesary because if she just asked you, you'd lie and proclaim undying devotion, you'd get the sex, and then you'd lose interest - end of relationship.

What YOU should do is stop. Just stop making any advances at all. No asking. No petting. No kissing. NOTHING.

I don't suggest you two discuss the issue because she's throwing up all of these nonsense excuses. She's doing that because she's not willing to discuss the issue.

But you should seriously consider why you're 'dating' a girl who uses sex as a tool/weapon and who has such insecurities that she thinks dating = marriage.

I like this idea. I was thinking about freezing her out a bit and trying to be less needy about it.

I have a few questions if you don't mind, do I keep hanging out with her as usual but just not make any advances? If she does make a move on me do I respond favorably or shoot it down? I also picture her asking me what's wrong at that point, how should I play it from there? What's the plan to actually get things going after leaving her alone for awhile?

I am seriously considering moving on, but I'd like to try a few different things before I do because we otherwise do seem to match up pretty well.