[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay - first of all the molestation: YOU'RE NOT OVER IT. Depending upon what age you were first molested, you can be suffering from 'twisted sexual pathways' - which happens if molested between 4 to 7 years of age. The younger the girl, the more severe the psychlogical damage.

Let me explain. Research into feminine sexual dysfunction has shown that the connections between sexual organs and brain develop over time as a girl grows up. The final connection is made when she masturbates to orgasm the first time. Disruption in this development will stop her from being able to enjoy sex as an adult. Instead of being able to enjoy sex, she gets those "twisted sexual pathways" I mentioned earlier.

I know you said you 'saw someone' but frankly, you did not see the RIGHT someone.

This condition can be helped by seeing a sex therapist who specialises in Abuse and Female Sexual Dysfunction. I strongly encourage you to do so. This is NOT something you can get over on your own. Eventually this therapist will need to speak with both of you so keep your husband involved.

And may your abuser rot in Hell for betraying your trust, seriously harming you, and robbing you of your sexuality.

Secondly, your husband is also suffering. He only seems to want sex all of the time because he's not getting the level of sex and intimacy that he requires. Most men settle down into a happy level of sex with their adored spouses when a regular frequency has occured. They might not get as much as they would like but they're getting enough to be happy. You see his asking as pressure while he sees his asking as a cry for your help!

Even if you cannot enjoy sex fully, I do recommend you do what you can to help your husband out. Some intimacy and sex AND getting with the RIGHT therapist should help.