[Catt]

Hi - hope I'm posting in the right place, I can't find this topic anywhere and since we're married I thought I'd ask other long-term couples...

My husband and I have been playing with anal lately. At first I was finding it a strange mix of being a bit uncomfortable yet pleasurable at the same time. So I lurked around here and read all the posts and advice to find out how we could make it better... and it's worked, I'm now really enjoying it and my husband is over the moon that we can add this to our menu!

The problem is that if I move at all, no matter how relaxed I am and how pleasurable I'm finding it, everything tenses and pushes him out. We've been doing it in a spooning position as that's most comfortable for me, and when I'm aroused there's no problem with his getting in there and thrusting nice and slowly... but then I get carried away and try to push back and it all goes to pot - I tense up and we have to go back to getting me relaxed again (not that I'm complaining!) before carrying on.

This is all well and good, and as much as I enjoy the sensation of lying still and feeling my husband, I want to be able to join in a bit more!

Any advice?