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> Not sure how to progress...i mean Im really starting to get feelings for her.

You progress by being friendly toward her, and, exuding confidence in your behavior, and, being friendly, all without being overbearing and forward and giving her and others the sense of being needy and clingy or possessive. To put all this into proper perspective--be her friend. Go about all this as you would with anybody you want to become friends with. Let the mutual admiration, lust, love and all, blossom by letting your friendship run its course. Do not try to push for results. Guide your relationship, do not push and shove it.

> Im so frightened to show compassion in public or say any loving compliments because Im afraid she'll lose respect for me

Where is the logic in this thought? If your spoken thoughts are out of love and concern then who in their right mind would be upset or offended by hearing kind and complimentary words? You are way over thinking and analyzing all this!

Now, if your comments are hurtful, disrespectful, inconsiderate, or, cruel, then you have a right to be concerned.

> as the 'dominate male' and her believing I need her more then she possibly needs me.

"Dominate male"? Listen up: A successful happy relationship is comprised of two autonomous adults who choose to live life together and form a relationship that is greater than the sum of its two parts. Needy relationships seldom work. A woman does not need to be dominated or steered. She is quite capable of living life on her own and being her own boss. The operative terms here are to lead and guide not steer by pushing shoving, goading, or, intimidation. "Leading" is the result of "guiding" which are the result of learning what each other wants and desires and then seeing to it that these things happen with her cooperation and approval. Your use of the term "dominate male" makes this sound like you are pushy and controlling.

> I might be paranoid...maybe Im such a loser

Yes, you seem to be paranoid. Loser? No--just inexperienced and anxious.

Confidence is acquired by acting your way to successful behavior. If you lack confidence, then take on the roll of an actor playing the part of a confident individual and be confident. Pretty soon you will be.

Be friends, be friendly, and let your budding relationship unfold in its own way and time. Let her know what you want and if she desires the same thing, so much the better. If not, then negotiate or move on. Lastly, just relax and be cool. As it stands right now, you seem to be on pins and needles because of inexperience in dealing with relationships. This is understandable because each one of us has been or will be where you are right now. This is a learning experience for both of you.

> I dont want to lose her. Im never met such a knockout before...but neveetheless, what should be the next step? What I should I do in this point of our relationship?

Ask her.

Also, understand that dating does not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us. Chances are good that you will meet and date several other people over the next few years before Ms. Right comes along. Maybe this girl is her. Either way, do not be devistated if you find that things do not work out. If they do--great! If not, move on to the next person and try, again, and so on and on.

Why are we so awkward to be with each other in public? What should I say to her?

You are awkward because all this is new and unfamiliar. Take EEKs words to task and dial your enthusiasm and expectations back a bit, while continuing to be excited by her and all that she is and does (except for the drinking).

Lastly: explore and learn together; work as a partnership in cooperation and in a colaborative effort. Make your relationship a result of what the two of you do with and for each other; not to each other. Please read the article that discusses "Implied Consent" and boundaries then impliment this technique in how you lead.

Please familiarize yourself with the Index, found at the top of the main screen. It contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. Click on the site's Home page for even more information. Both of you should read all of the articles more than once, then discuss what you have learned.

Pregnancy scare: WHY? If you are having unprotected sex, then you should not be having sex, period, regardless of the feelings and desires involved. This is immature and irresponsible behavior for adult activities and possible outcomes. Please read the article dealing with birth control.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?