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After reading all the replies so far, it occurred to me that a fundamental part of a young man's sexual education has been omitted. What's that?

A. That boys and girls think about love, life, relationships, and, sex, DIFFERENTLY.

B. The younger a teenage boy the more he dreams and conives ways to have sex (foreplay and/or intercourse) in order to have an orgasm with a girl that is more intense than what is possible when home alone.

C. Being in love is dreamy and wonderful yet often full of stress, drama, and trauma, mostly due to emotional immaturity and the lack of acquired people skills that will develop as we develop. (There is a reason the teen years are a decade long!)

D. That kids often live in the moment. It is not so much consequences be damned full speed ahead; more that because the brain is the last part of the body to mature at around age 21+, that consequences aren't even thought about.

Girls tend to romanticize relationships. Engaging in sex is a way to strengthen a relationship. Boys think about orgasms and how to go about having bigger better ones and they know from dating that emotions and sensations are stronger when in the company of another person.

Boys will say and do most anything in order to have an orgasm with or at a girl's hands. LOVE? Often he will say so as a means to an end. Others will genuinely be "in love" yet not to the level of committment his girlfriend is. Boys can separate love and sex; girls not so much and with much greater damage to her psyche and emotions. It is important for boys to know and understand these differences and not use a girl for selfish purposes.

If you are going to engage in intercourse, please do so for the right reasons, otherwise, limit your make out sessions stopping at foreplay. An orgasm from a h/j and/or b/j is often much stronger than those resulting from intercourse. Intercourse is more about satisfying the psyches and demonstrating the love each person has for the other. So, these being the facts, other than initial curiosity, think about where to draw your limits and why--then, stick to your decision.

Boys are driven to have orgasms, both for the pure pleasure of them; and, to relieve stress. It is important for girls to know that while she can have sex with a guy and an hour or so later find that he has masturbated is not a slap in the face. Guys can love deeply, demonstrate that love and have an orgasm, yet find that stress has built up an hour or so later thus having a need to release it. The results (a climax) are the same, the impetus or reasons are vastly different.

Just because a girl and boy have gone thru puberty, this does not mean they are ready to become parents. Birth control is not a 100% guarantee against becoming pregnant. Teens and people in their twenties are more prone to becoming pregnant than at any other stage of life. This is the why behind the recommendation to use three forms of contraception--not two, and certainly not one. Pulling out? You are trying to fool Mother Nature, and sure enough, she will often smite you.

Right now, you are probably wondering why all this talk about pregnancy when all you are concerned about is having a good time. The reason is because for all the good times, there are also some pregnancies that occur and couples have to be aware and plan for what might happen as a result. This is why I'm harping on this so that you and your girlfriend will be responsible enough to take all precautions and not have sex irresponsibly.

As for condoms=
Buy two different sizes (S/M/L) and determine the proper fit.
Roll the condom on pinching off the tip to be used as a reservoir.
Lubricate the outside as necessary. Lubricate the head or glans of the penis only if more friction is needed.
Use a condom only once.

First time intercourse=
Please read the article that discusses the how-to's of having initial intercourse.