[Brandye]

Evil is spot on. Lower your expectations and do not expect to do so much so quickly. Forget anal for now (and if you cannot figure out the order for those two, forget it all).

You should be questioning protection rather than the stuff you think you want to do. Condom on you. Vaginal spermicide in her. If you use vaginal jelly, the lube is taken care of. Seems you have not read around the Board much.