Oh, my! One or both of you need to slow down--way way down.
What are you interested in, making love or getting your proverbial rocks off and a couple of orgasms for the shear pleasure of it all?
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Originally Posted by sprtskhne33
Ok here is the game plan. First off we really haven't had "sex" but foreplay we have such as oral ways such as BJ's and "licking" her. We have decided that we are both ready to move on.
I recommend knowledge, more than you have now. Thank you for writing in and asking for some as it is so empowering. Please begin by clicking on the Index found at the top of the main screen. It contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. I recommend reading all of the articles, although, starting with those that address your immediate concerns, first.
Our next step what we did was practicing putting the condom on. We are baffled by a few more things.
Condoms come in different styles and sizes depending upon manufacturer. The first thing to do is to purchase two in adjacent sizes and learn what works best. Do not buy lubricated condoms. If necessary, add a lubricant.
First off, how much lubricant would we need to apply for a smooth enjoyment?
You may not need to. Are you aware that women self lubricate when they are aroused? All you may need to do is to make sure her mucus is distrubed around the vaginal opening. On the other hand, if you do add a lube like Astroglide for example, all you need to is wipe it over the outside surface. The solution is thin, not a thick gel.
If we were to go anal, how much lubricant would we need?
DO NOT do any anal until you are well in tune with one another. Figure on doing this down the road and only if your girlfriend is interested and then after several months. Your question is answered in an article listed in the Index.
If we do the anal and vaginal, what are we better off doing first? The anal or vaginal?
ALWAYS keep fingers, toys, and other things separated. Never cross contaminate, for lack of a better term.
We would like to have our questions answered the best way possible because we want an enjoyable first time, not a time we want to forget. I want to thank you all for your time, advice, and help. We greatly appreciate it! |
Please read the article on "experience" and those leading up to intercourse. I know you want things to go perfectly without a hitch and to be enjoyable. I can tell you that rarely do first time sessions go off without a hitch. Enjoyable? Yes, if each person is caring and knows a thing or two.
Making love is not done by the numbers!
Making love is not what we do to each other;
making love is what we do with and for each other.
Making love is a partnership, just as with any other
aspect of your relationship.
Explore and learn together.
Sex rarely goes off without some glitch the first few times so
just expect it and laugh it off and continue on. It will be enjoyable
if the two of you care about each other and proceed in a caring manner.
Please do not hesitate to ask questions, answers are why the site exists.
Please do read various articles listed in the Index, and off the site's Home page.
I'm concerned that you did not ask about birth control, other than the condom indirectly. It is unwise for only one person to use a contraceptive. If you want to protect your future, wear a condom and look out for #1.
If your girlfriend does not want an unplanned pregnancy and her future plans altered, she should be using the pill or some other highly reliable contraceptive.
Lastly, the two of you should also use a third backup method like a spermicide.
I hope this is of help.