she does have a very strong aversion and it will help her to ponder where it's coming from. if she can figure that out, she has a place to work from. and it seems that she does want to work on it. not necessarily b/c boyfriend is guilting her into it (which - agree - is NOT a healthy or nice thing to do), but because, like she said - she knows it will please him.
there ARE steps women can take to overcome their fear or disgust of giving oral sex (i have a few of them on my resources page here
Blow Him Away - RESOURCES), and i strongly recommend they look into it and consider taking a new approach. i'm not saying this is fair or right, but the fact is 99% of men will not date a woman who does not give oral sex. furthermore, if they ARE in a relationship where they're getting mediocre head, they WILL look outside the relationship to satisfy their oral needs. my income over the last 5 years is a testimony to that harsh reality.
i feel for her...i really do. but i believe she can take action and get over it...step by step.
alanna