[Rouge]

I do tip my hat to your traditional approach, as there are many things to be learned from tradition, but this all depends upon the individual/couple.

For example:

My partner and I often rival what is found in a lot of pornography. We don't aim to, we simply have fun. This being said, we do watch porn together and individually, but our sex life has been this way from day 1. There isn't a distortion, merley different interpretations. We pick up new positions, ideas, and scenarios to play with while watching recreational porn.

As far as sex being with someone you've known for a long time, I believe you're confusing two terms. Sex, and making love. Sex can be with anyone, any time, for any reason. It's a filling of primal needs, even within a couple. Love making (making love, same difference) is generally described as the spiritual bonding between two partners during the act of intercourse. This doesn't have to happen every time (I myself haven't yet experienced it fully, but hope to). Sex can be dirty, sweaty, funny, energetic, downright filthy, lusty, even slow, but it isn't necessarily making love, and it's important not to get the two confused. You can have completley raunchy sex with a stranger, or as a couple and still love each other to the ends of the earth, with no reservations (and I'd encourage every couple to, it's fun!).