What Can I/We Do To Prepare For First Time Intercourse?
PART 2--Another view of the same question.
A Boy's Concern For Making the First Time Successful and Fulfilling
> I've been seeing this girl for a little while now, and we had sex for the first time last night. We started out without a condom because she told me that it was alright, and that she was on the pill (I've known her for awhile, and I trust her...I'm clean as well) but then as we started "picking up the pace" she asked if I would put one on.
Why use a condom? How old are the two of you?
Safety from STDs is one reason.
Safety from pregnancy is another.
If you are in your teens or twenties then the two of you should be using three forms of contraception--hers, yours, & ours as a backup. Why? Because couples in this age range are the most prone to become pregnant for a variety of reasons.
From your details it seems as if you are more concerned with STDs than not getting her pregnant; otherwise you would have worn one from the beginning. Why? Because no contraceptive method is 100% reliable and about the time you try to pull one over on Mother Nature she will come back and smite you.
** If you are going to participate in adult activities you have to be adult about your actions and responsibilities, also. In part this means looking out for #1 {you) and protecting yourself as she is doing. A third line of defense is also highly recommended.
Birth Control Failure Rates
**For safety's sake consider that precum has semen in it, so anytime the fluid appears, danger lurkes. Also, consider that you are playing a version of Russian Roulette only instead of one bullet in the cylinder of a six shooter, you have a fully loaded cannon! Point it anywhere in the vacinity of her vulva and there is a possibility a woman could be impregnated. Yes, the odds are low, however, there are odds none-the-less. Do not gamble with her life and future, your life and future, and especially someone as yet to be a part of the equation.
Condoms are made out of the following materials:
* latex
* polyurethane
* polyisoprene
* lamb membrane
The latter will not protect against STDs and is only recommended when a couple is in a committed relationship. They are also very fragile.
Few men like condoms yet we put up with them for the reasons given. If you want an alternative to latex, try polyisoprene.
> I've always just pulled out at the end.
This is not a very effective or reliable approach, even with the best of intentions.
> I don't get the same feeling with a condom.
Yup! None of us do. That said, you can get closer to the "same feeling" by applying some lubricant to the head of your penis only before rolling the condom on. This will give it more wiggle room inside thus transmitting more friction.
> I don't know if I'm putting it on wrong or not, but the condom tends to "slip" down my shaft until my head is basically in the reservoir, and this is very uncomfortable.
Condoms come in small, medium, and, large. Purchase and try different sizes. Different brands and their respective sizes may vary, so evaluate each brand.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?