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Ok gentlemen (and ladies too for that matter), I would like your opinion.

I have been having sex with this guy (I'll call him K) on and off for about 9 months now. We are not "dating" in the traditional sense, but I do consider him more than a booty call. Occasionally we'll go out for a drink and a bite to eat, but really, the objective has always been to end up in my bed.

Sex with him has always been fun, but the last few times we've been together the sex has gotten a little more intense, a little more intimate. I think in the spirit of keeping things light between us, there are things we just haven't done - namely, oral. I know that for many men this is, um, important, but I've always had some difficulty with it. I have to really, really, trust the guy I'm with. And I've always had just a little bit of a hang up with it...so, it hasn't really bothered me that K and I didn't go there.

Well, things changed this last weekend. There seem to be some walls that are coming down between us...very fun night and he stayed the following day into the evening - which he has never done.

Now, I've always had fantasies about being tied up - just light stuff, nothing painful...not hanging from the ceiling or anything...I played with this a little bit with an old boyfriend years ago, but nothing since. I believe I'm ready to introduce this idea to him - but I have to admit, I'm a little nervous.

I have an idea that involves me tying him up first, and well, having my way with him. I know a lot of people would suggest just talking to him first - but we've never had very personal conversations, like I said, we keep it light. Honestly, I just want to do it, I like the idea of surprising him - but I don't want to be super over the top or have it fall flat.

Thoughts?

...sorry for the long post...