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Originally Posted by KMB
I need someone to make me whole
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No, honey, I promise you, you DON'T. And you need to get yourself to a place where you believe that. Take it from someone who once didn't feel whole unless she was making someone else whole.
I went for a long time, with this need to be needed. I felt like, in order to prove that I was worth anything, I needed to have someone need me. I needed to be USEFUL to someone. Valuable to someone.
One problem with that is, it's very easy to get USED that way. The other problem is, they work on themselves, and eventually reach a personal place of being able to fix their own issues without me. They stop needing me, figure out how to fill themselves up, make themselves whole without my help. And when I was no longer filling their holes, my own holes became empty again.
That's no way to live. In a relationship between two people, the WANTING them in your life should be different from the NEEDING them in your life. It shouldn't be that you need them so badly that you want them. It should be that you want them so bad, you need them. That probably sounds like gibberish to some, but I hope it makes at least some sense.