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Originally Posted by KMB
I need love, trust, respect
Well I feel like I'm needy because I say I need someone to tell me they love me
Need or desire? Nearly everyone wants love or to be loved, however, needing this shows a lack of something within the person. Self esteem??
All I want is like I said before Love
OK, you have a boyfriend. You have friends. You should be receiving love and admiration from these people.
I need someone to make me whole
This is immature thinking. Go back to the days of old--really really old. Do you know that during the expansion of the West, there were more men in Nevada and California than women? Most women going west ended up as prostitutes, bar maids, or seamstresses and laundresses. Men outnumbered women hundreds and in some large cities thousands to one! "Complete", used to living and surviving on their own, each person was pretty much "whole". Of course each probably desired companionship and support yet it would be a long time in coming before the genders balanced out.
Making yourself whole, is something each of us must accomplish on our own. In time you should be able to accomplish this with age and maturity and having accomplishments under your belt. What of the man who has friends, is in his thirties, yet has never married? What of a woman? What about those who have have and are now divorced?
Being complete goes back to what I stated earlier. Relationships work best when two complete individuals opt to join forces for the betterment of both by giving to the relationship rather than taking from it. Put another way: "we give to receive", not "take to get".
yeah I read some of your articles
I am glad to hear this. Brandy, EEK, and I have devoted much of our time and talent to helping others coming up thru the ranks to have an easier time of it. The articles you have not read will be there when the need arises for their information.
And my boyfriend is very supportive he's almost always there for me.
Give the boy some kudos regularly.
sorry i didn't explain myself right before
My mom thinks I'm needy as well and It worries me.
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Not a problem, I am just happy you added clarification because this does not happen all the time and limits what we can do for people.
Having lived longer, your mother benefits from having accumulated "life" and history and experiences that you have yet to acquire. Other than that, parents are no different than the people they are training to become adults.
You may be perceived as being needy, however, you have the insight and understanding, now, on how to become more independent. If and when you move out of your parents home, live in a dorm and later live on your own or with a roommate, you will be forced into becoming selfsufficient and relying upon your wits and experiences to see you through.
For now, take a look at your relationship and focus your time and attention on your boyfriend. Ask yourself each morning "what can I do today to make his life worthwhile or better"? Give of yourself in order to receive in turn from him. I bet you'll find that your relationship will change for the better after a few weeks. If he adopts the same philosophy of giving, you will then receive what you "need". You go girl!