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Well, K, you are providing us or at least me with a challenging weekend. Good. I was hoping it would not be slow. Let's continue...now that your other thread has been replied to.
Again, I want to ask questions in order to learn where your heart and mind are.
* What do you need?
* How do you believe you are needy?
* What do you want from others?
* What do you want out of life?
* What is missing?
* Do you need someone to make you whole or complete?
Have you read any of my replies to others in which I tell the person that good and successful relationships are comprised of two people who are autonomous adults and who can live quite well on their own yet choose to join with a partner in order to have a life greater tha the sum of its two parts? It's true. Far fewer relationships work long term in which one person drains the partner of emotional support, or confidence in order to allow them to function.
If this is you, then what do you seek? Confidence? Trust? Emotional support? Ego boosting? Other?
Much of what you may lack for any of these can be acquired with some practice. Set short small term goals in which success is almost assured. As you successfully complete a goal or task, place the results in your "atta boy/girl" file. Next, repeat with something else, and so on and on. As you make progress, add to the level of difficulty.
That will help with confidence. Self esteem is often a result of acquiring confidence.
If you have too many failures and have not worked to turn them around as described, then I recommend making these changes a bit at a time over time.
When you date, find a partner who can and will be supportive and provide moral support. Do not waste time with someone who is not. Please keep in mind that a successful relationship (friendships or loveships) work as partnerships, and, in what we an do with and for someone. Relationships fail when one or both selfishly take resources from the other.
Please answer the questions so that those wishing to reply will have a more complete understanding of your "need". I hope this is of help. Got questions?
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