[EvilEvilKitten]

As a bona fide polyandrous woman who has been married to the same man for 33 years now and has three lovers each of 5 yrs standing, you are experiencing a transitional period in your relationship with your husband.

You are in lust with your lover (very nice) but have yet to understand fully how this will change your relationship with your husband with whom you are entering the Attachment phase of your relationship.

So, I will adivse you to do several things:

1. nevermind if you're aroused every time- - relax. Anxiety is the great killer of happy enjoyable sex. Erotic massage and Body worship will go a long way to curing this. FOREPLAY IS OF THE UTMOST IMPORTANCE!! I am very surprised he hasn't learned this! A minimum of 22 minutes, according to the research is required. Find and read and then do The Program - see above. as for the lover, practice, practice, practice is what will help him.

2. Reserve something for your husband. He has first position and is the sire of your child(ren) - he is therefore special and deserves being given primacy of place. Yes, this matters to men. If he says 'not', he's lying through his teeth to preserve your ego - so don't listen to him. some women in the Lifestyle do not permit sleepovers - that is, the lover sleeps elsewhere and she sleeps only with her husband. Others do not kiss their lovers and playmates. It is up to you what you choose but choose something intimate like cuddling or going on 'dates' which is an excellent idea.

3. Get rest, nutrition, time off when you can be alone, recognise when you begin feeling stressed out and stop it by changing what you're doing right then - back off, re-orient yourself, and then come back into the situation; make sure you stay hydrated.

Welcome to the Lifestyle - it is about time we had more polyandrous women in here!