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Old 09-20-2009, 08:24 AM
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This thread means that you aren't naturally dominant. People tend to be naturally dominant, or naturally submissive. If you are naturally submissive, it is hard but possible to turn it aroundl. The hardest part is breaking through the first barrier. There is no way at all to make it easy for yourself, you need to step out of your comfort zone. All I can say is just go for it. Rather than holding back, be a bit more aggressive, take the first move. If it helps, tell him/her that you are going to be dominant before starting so they know to hold back and encourage you. It will be uncomfortable to start with, but after the first couple of times you will realise it isn't as scary as it seems and it will come easier to you. Good luck.
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