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Originally Posted by derukuriku
we started over and everything was fine.
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This leads me to believe it's the 'not enough time to get fully aroused' issue, in combination with the anxiety issue. Once you two spent enough time on each other, you had no choice but to be relaxed enough, and to want it bad enough, that your anxiety flew out the window and it happened.
So. Now you know there's nothing 'wrong' that's keeping it from happening. You know you're capable of being successful at this.
Put the anxiety away now, and just play. Play and explore and tempt and tease each other (ie making out and foreplay) until you both want it so bad that politeness flies out the window, because you simply need it NOW. I just gave T the first successful hand-only-job in the two years I've known him by teasing at each stage until he couldn't take it anymore and moved us to the next stage(as in, outside his clothes until HE decided they needed to come off, etc). Although he never said it, I'm sure at some point he wondered to himself if I was ever going to actually touch his penis forgodsake. Which was, to be totally honest, the point (fine, call me evil, but it worked, didn't it?
). If you and your partner make each other want it SO bad, that the only thing that exists is that need, it's guaranteed to happen.