[ductapefaerie]

So, my husband and I have been married for just over 2 years, and have been together for just over 7. We've been having sex for 5. The last few years, it seems as though it's harder and harder for my husband to turn me on. I still love him, and it still works some of the time, but not all of the time. I know some of the reasons are stress, some unhappiness with my body (I had my son 10 1/2 months ago) and a bit of depression, but even when I'm not having an episode, it still seems hard to become aroused via my husband.

I know it's nothing physical because my boyfriend (please no judging, we have a polyamorous relationship; all consenting and fully informed adults) is able to get me going all the time. Again, this is partially because he's still novel and exciting (we've only been dating a couple of months).

I'm really not sure what to do. I don't feel like adding any kink will help, and, though I'd love to try body worship (and I will suggest it to him), I know he's going to fumble a lot if he'll even try it. I guess what I'm looking for here is ideas for how to get back into the groove of things. I love sex with him, I love him, I just can't seem to get in the mood that often.

Also, as a side note, my boyfriend has a hard time lasting when we have sex. A lot of this is due to inexperience on his part, but it's really bothering him. I've read the thread on PE, so that's definitely a possibility, but any other suggestions would be great.

Thanks for all your words of advice, and again, please refrain from judging on the husband and boyfriend thing. As previously stated, we are all informed and consenting adults.