> We watched some TV, while occasionally making out. I don't know exactly how much time we devote to just making out, but we don't really rush into things.
Turn the TV off and devote thirty minutes minimum to making out. Give her your full and undivided attention. She needs this time and attention and you will directly benefit from it, also.
Go thru the Index and look for the articles on making out and read them more than once for how to get the most out of your efforts. I have more than one as does EEK who wrote "The Program". Read all of hers, also, then put all the information into practice.
> I would say I was pretty hard, not like ROCK SOLID, but pretty hard. I quickly grabbed a condom, rolled it on, and tried to have intercourse, but it was barely soft enough so that I couldn't get it in. And then once that happened I went completely limp.
Why didn't you let her roll the condom on and stroke you all at the same time? (For example:
* she can tease the nerves in your Glans before actually rolling the condom on
* she can rub the Frenulum, next
* she can lightly strok the back of the Glans (Corona Rim) where there are usually one or more
hot spots
* pausing there if necessary, she can then continue to slowly rub the top of the shaft
* continuing with the roll out process, she can squeeze the shaft and move the skin up and down
as she goes
Alternately, if she is good at rolling on a condom, she can do so very rapidly, then do some stroking of the shaft if needed.
If you use a lube after the condom is on, and/or squeeze you can continue to stroke the shaft, although, not to the length that can be done with a lubricated hand.
> I guess I am nervous around her, which makes me lose my erection quickly if im not being stroked hard. Shes been having sex for like 5 years, and I've been having sex for like 5 weeks.
Another article that will benefit you is the one on experience when one person has more than the other.
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I'm still concerned that the two of you are not making out sufficiently before moving onto foreplay. Much of becoming hard has to do with being turned on, both from what the two of you do for each other, and also simply by being turned on by her presence. Call it "sparks", and "chemistry". If you do not have these, intercourse is more difficult. Because you do not have a problem masturbating, this and worry are the cause of your difficulties.
> Tonight we'll probably try again, maybe adding alcohol to the mix will ease my nerves. And I'll ask her to put the condom on me, we'll see what happens.
DO NOT drink. Whatever you have heard about drinking and sex, in truth, like water, alcohol and sex do not mix. Your inhibitions may become relaxed, but your ability to get and maintain an erection and then to enjoy the experience will be squelched. Man up and work on the recommendations we are puting forth to you instead of looking for a quick fix or a patch.
** One of the reasons we have taken the time to write the articles in the Index is to give people the tools needed, not duct tape instant fixes.
> While fingering her, I'm pretty sure I hit the g-spot, which feels bumpy and is on the roof.
The G-spot is about the diameter of a quarter and feels bumpy like a washboard. It is about 2" inside. At this stage of the game do not try to involve it. You have more important things to learn and accomplish, first, and, second. Do not be in a rush. Take your time, explore with her and learn together.
> However, when I go REALLY deep, I felt like a hard ball in the very back that I could grab. Does anybody know what this is?
This is the neck of her Cervix. Here is
your anatomy lesson for the day and a very good use of a search engine like Google! Please click on the link for several illustrations, definitions, and, information. Want more? Google: vagina illustrations
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
-doc