[arutha]

I am in a long term relationship with a girl, and we now face the classical problem. The first 6 months or so we were all over each other, couldn't get enough sex, etc etc. And now, nearly 3 years in, we hardly ever make love, she is very rarely in the mood, and I have a lot of stresses in my career at the moment which is leaving me tired at the moment. We have disucssed it a little bit, and obviously both know things seem a bit downhill at the moment.

I am wondering what is the best way to try to get the spark going again? Spring a big romantic surprise? Discuss it again and come up with a solution together? Have a break from each other? Whatever else is a better idea? Anyone who has been through this and overcome it would be great.