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Care and compassion comes from men who are SECURE in themselves and therefore have no need to abuse/control others. And, contrary to popular opinion, you can find them everywhere.
Look for the men who do not need you but do want you not because you're female but because you are you.
This means, no more 'courting behavior' and no more 'games' on your part. You are who you are and that is that. If you flirt, do it mildly in an offhand manner or so over the top (while grinning) that he knows you're not serious. Dress as you wish not as you think you should - no more 'dressing the part'. If you want to wear jeans and ratty sneakers - go for it. Don't apologise for your awful hair. Don't apologise at all. No more jokes at your own expense, no catty comments, no complaints of any kind.
You're stepping up to a new category.
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