[Brandye]

Your chronic warming in the sauce pot is becoming an acute boil for your psyche. Time to take some action, starting with your mother snooping and riding you. At thirty-one, your issues are your issues, not hers, until you choose to share them.

I do not know whether your weight is a problem or merely a symptom of underlying psychological issues. Lord know, I rant against excess weight from time to time. You can begin with dietitian or you can begin with a psychologist; I suspect both need be involved.

Eat your substantial lunch and think about it.