P.S. When making plans for a date, you might consider adding that you would enjoy the pleasure of her company doing this or that.
P.S. I understand being shy. As an only child and a Mama's boy, I was extremely shy and lacked self confidence as a teen. When I began dating, I asked a girl in one of my classes where she lived and as it was close as the crow flies yet far as in walking distance, I asked if she wanted to ride and if so she could walk from her house to ours and go the rest of the way in the car. After school if she didn't have anything to do, we could walk home together. Wonder of wonders, she took me up on both offers! The rest as they say is "history". Although I did not know it at the time, I was in fact using IC. Dating just sorta followed.
P.S. Using IC in your interactions with others helps bolster your self confidence by not having to always ask for clarification or to ask what may seem to you to be difficult questions, or to perhaps take a hit to your ego by being turned down. We all get turned down at times. NBD. If a girl is interested in doing something with you yet cannot because of scheduling conflicts the right thing for her to do is to offer an alternative. Should she not know to do this, and you do get a no, then you suggest an alternative date, time, or activity. If she turns you down, then you can infer from this that she is not interested in you as a boyfriend.
PART 2
Moving right along, lets say you go to dinner and cuddle after. If this all goes well, you can ask what activities she enjoys doing and use this information for coming up with something to do together the next weekend, or tell her of your interest in something and tell her you would like to do it together with
her.
If you are now going out on dates it will follow that she will probably be expecting a good night kiss. What do you do? For this and much more useful information go to the Index and read the appropriate articles.
KISSING & CARESSING--a young person's guide to EXPLORATION
DATING--Rules: how to and how not to
DATING--The Art and Science of Asking and Doing
Making Out--Knowing How Far To Go
These are links to articles found in the Index that can provide useful information now. Others can be of help later.
Being shy is OK; however, it often leads to this: "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" because a person cannot take that first step. I'm trying my darndest to help you and give you the tools to interact successfully with others. Do not be overly concerned about your lack of confidence, rejection, or anything else that you have concerns about. All this is part of the dating process. Ya just gotta step up and take a chance at some point--over and over again. If you ask someone out and she says no, then find and ask the next girl in line, and so on. If and when you get turned down, do not take it personally. It is part of the selection process. As a person who is in direct sales will tell you, they get turned down more often than not--and, it only takes one "yes" for things to progress.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?