[dancingdoc2]

Well, that's not good. So, how much longer do you want to listen to this crap and put up with this derogatory behavior?

My guess is that he will not change and he will not end the relationship because he is comfortable where he is with it. If the relationship is not filling your needs then you end it and continue to date and find Mr. Right. Do not for a minute think that he will change or that you can change him. These will very likely not come to pass.

No friends. Well, this, again, requires you to be proactive. Go to church and become involved in their activities. If you require help with your grandmother, perhaps there will be someone or two who can help you. If your grandmother requires full time care, then this takes a minimum of four people, three full time, one parttime. If she simply requires some checking in on or only a few hours care and support then figure on one other besides you.

If you have a job, then enlist coworkers to see if they can do some networking for you, both to help you find people to date, and to help with your senior care. Either way, talk to the people you do know and ask for their help. The more people you have working on your behalf, the more apt you are at finding people to date and to assist if necessary.

Whatever your decision with this boyfriend, you are the one who is going to have to look out for and advocate for you. Do not adopt the attitude of "being comfortable with the devil you know instead of the devil you don't" because there are far more princes in the world than not.