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And I'm not arguing that you should have stayed if you felt you shouldn't stay. That choice is on you. But do you see that it's not about her not putting in effort? It's about her effort doesn't help her take as big a steps as yours seem to. She puts in all that effort but only gains one mph, where you put in the same effort and gain 5 or 10. That makes it feel like hers is less effort, but it's not, it's just less progress.
Here's why driving analogies are so close to my heart, and I think it fits here: I'm almost 31 and have only been driving a car for a year and a half. I drive to work every day, even take optional drives on weekends. But I have still never driven the interstate or highway. A year and a half ago, I didn't like driving AT ALL and felt fast at 20mph (literally this time LOL). Now I can go 35 or so, and drive 10-15 times a week!!
Even though compared to you, I probably barely drive at all, compared to me a year and a half ago, I drive a TON.
See what I mean?
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