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And yet - those sexual moods are coming less and less frequently and for shorter and shorter periods - aren't they? Of course he's worried! He's afraid it will stop altogether and you end up havig sex maybe once in a blue moon like most long term arrangements!
STOP IT.
This isn't about 'pressuring' this is about INVITING. If you prefer to wait for the bus rather than building one, there's little anyone can do to help him out.
Whether you pounce upon his poor defenceless body or just walk around naked wearing only a pair of stilettos is up to you. Sometimes, one just has to get in the mood.
This is also about making the deliberate choice to amp up your sex lives and give it the priority sex should have in your relationship. I have been married to the same man for more than 30 years and even now cuddling had better lead to orgasms all around or I will pounce upon his poor defenceless body and make him give it up! Let him off easy? No way! The cuddling is for afterwards or in between bouts - never instead.
Because you have enough 'real life' when out of bed, off at work, paying blls, doing your taxes, dealing with the in-laws, taking care of the house, yadda, yadda, yadda.
Playtime (sex) is your time to shine! Your time to exchange 'tokens of mutual esteem and affection' and to give eachother the ego boosts of a lifetime! The conflagration of souls that reaffirms life itself - and why would you ever want to wait for that when you really do not have to?
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