[singledaddd2]

Long marriage, 16 years and i was completely in to her. She was my princess and I never even thought of cheating on her. Found out about an affair in Jan, and decided to work on things. Found out about an ongoing two year affair in May and said enough. Divorce papers.

Pretty strong sex drive in me. We had sex two-three times a week, but I always wanted more. Couldn't keep my hands off her. Since divorce put in motion four months ago my sex drive has been slim to none.

Met a woman few weeks ago and she's a hottie. We talk/text a lot and hang out with group of friends, all of whom have been divorced. It's been great therapy for me to talk with friends, explore my feelings, my pain of divorce, etc.

Me and the hottie have talked about our attraction for each other, and that I'm just not ready for a relationship right now. Just doesn't seem like the right time. Told the hottie not to wait around for me, cause I don't want her to put life on hold. We continue to talk and hang out and had dinner other day. Our emotional connection is great.

Here's the question(s): I really feel a strong connection with her, but I don't want her to be the "rebound" relationship. I think there is potential for much more with her. Feel like I need to date around for a while (when I'm ready) before starting something with her. Her friend (woman) tells me to go out and sow my wild oats for a while. Wife was my first and only partner.

Hottie understands this and we've been very open with each other (that's one of the very attractive things about her...we can TALK!)

So when will my sex drive return? When the divorce is final? Is this a good plan? Hottie continues to date and is very open about her sexuality, partners, etc. Pretty much tells me everything. I got no problem with that.

Need a little help here people...