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Yes, the clitoris is very important, but it is NOT the only "hotspot" for women. Actually, when a woman is totally "fired up" there isn't ANY part of her body that isn't a "hot spot" but for beginners, esp. virgins, you can focus upon the 4 major ones: Clitoris, G-Spot, anterior fornix, and posterior fornix. All of these when correctly stimulated will induce orgasms in women who want to orgasm.
If she has not orgasmed through masturbation on her own then there's nothing you can do to help her orgasm. If she does not want to orgasm, and there are some women who don't, there's nothing you can do to make her orgasm. The very few who cannot orgasm, for some reason, simply won't.
Next point, trying to have an orgasm, by tensing up the muscles, being anxious about it, holding her breath - all of that will stop an orgasm from happening. She must be both relaxed and aroused and willing.
She has to achieve orgasm on her own before she can have one with you.
You should therefore mildly encourage her to masturbate. You should also look up a sticky post entitled The Program and gently follow it, stopping when she says to stop.
Just remember that it is not your job to give her an orgasm - you only assist.
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