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Now, to help you, specifically. As a play on your screen name, you definitely have blazed in here in the nick of time:

Originally Posted by Blaze in time

I was talking to my girlfriend the other day and she said she had never had an orgasm, I now kinda feel like I am insufficant to do the job, while Im new to sex, don't know all the ropes I feel kinda defeated. What should I do, I know sex isn't as good if your trying to force something like that out of your partner.

First things first. Women and orgasms have been discussed twice in as many days. Please look around for more. You can click on my name and look at my most recent replies to locate them. Please go to the Index and read the articles on the female "O", including this one:

For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

What is important to know and understand is that we do not give orgasms away. Each one of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them. This means that she must first learn how to masturbate and be able to do so repeatedly and reliably. Once she has bridged this gap, then she can show you how to touch her in ways that will bring her to a climax. Providing feedback on how she is responding is also key and this is also explained in greater detail in one of the articles.

Women are not driven to learn how to masturbate as we are. They often learn much later if at all. When she does begin learning how it often requires a concerted effort. So let her read the article, above, and begin practicing. Be patient, this is a process that might go quickly or take a few weeks depending upon how often she practices.

I did notice that when I'm giving her oral, she kinda....how's the best was to put it, her leg's tend to shake, is that good, bad or normal?

It is good. It is normal. Not everybody does it or does it all of the time.
You may find down the road that the same thing will happen to you as you become stimulated and aroused much more in her presence than when you are home alone.

And I get her to a certain point where she will push my head away or if I'm using my fingers will push away my hand,she says it tickles...

This is an indication of becoming very very aroused. To compensate for the ticklishness, if this happens on her body, like her abdomen, etc., simply apply a bit more pressure. If it happens while you are there at her Vulva, then work with the clitoris indirectly. You can do this by folding the labia over it and massaging the clitoris thru them. You can also stimulate the clitoris indirectly by rubbing and tugging on the labia. Doing so will transfer sensations with less intensity.

Any advise would be much appriciated.

Thanks.

I recommend that the two of you read all of the articles listed in the Index and more than once. You can do this together or individually. Later, discuss the information you have acquired. Knowledge is empowering.

I hope this is of help. Got questions? If so, do not hesitate to ask.