Well, Joe and Nikki, your comments show that both of you have come to the right place, that being to acquire more information. Both of you are headed in the right direction yet off the path and plodding along in the rough.
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Originally Posted by Joe
i am pretty sure i know more about her vagina then she does even though she is the first girl that i have ever fingered. So like when i am fingering her i ask her what feels best, and she just says "it all feels good". But i think she is just saying that cuz she doesnt know he body well enough to know what feels really good.
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For the purpose of clarification do you mean the birth canal or the entire Vulva that includes all her pieces-parts including the Vagina? Fingering applies to all of the above.
The problem as I see it with your analysis is that you got exactly the correct answer for your question; what happened is that you did not ask the right question. My guess is that you want to know what sensations will build toward an orgasm and this is the question that should have been asked. You need feedback from her as to what feels good, yes, yet you need to know what to do to build her level of excitement and arousal. This is a different and more specific question.
What do you mean by "what feels really good?" I'm sure any one of us can quantify what feels good on a scale of 1 to 10, so do not short change her ability to do so. This gets back to asking the correct question, above.
Now, in your defense, she may just not know what feelings excite her the most and build toward an orgasm. If she has yet to masturbate and enjoy orgasms on her own, then she cannot tell you what is required of her--or you!
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Originally Posted by Nikki
starting the intercourse with a little amount of finger action in the clitoris is a number one rule in sex! then what makes it perfect if there are adult toys to add in the pleasure
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"...in the clitoris?" Please clarify. On and around, yes; in--no.
If your definition of "sex" is the entire process of making out, arousing each other, perhaps enjoying an orgasm or two before intercourse, then your "number one rule" is incorrect and too short sighted. On the other hand if you equate "sex" with intercourse, then whether the rule is #1 or another number, I would agree as long as you acknowledge that whatever the number it is up to the couple.
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